My first wife and I were married for 21 years.  She died of complications of congestive heart failure while visiting family in Korea... at the end of 2009.\n\nAfter almost 2 years of mourning, I struck it lucky a second time, and met a wonderful woman who graciously consented to be my wife.  We were married in April.  I am doubly lucky in that this wonderful woman accepts that I have what amounts to a ghost of a former wife in my life and thoughts.