seriously do this. also consider changing your visitation via a court order. if Gary didn't do it, then Stella did. Your daughter certainly didn't bite herself. And what the fuck with the shaved head? this shit is crazy. Likely, Stella did the snipping and then blamed the kid. She might be jealous of your daughter and the attention she gets and takes away from Gary. I would not bring the kid back to that household until she is gone. 