Anxiety, envy and everything in between: Four partners on pregnancy from their perspective.
by Laura JackelFrom the moment of conception through to birth, pregnancy can be wonderful and terrifying at the same time.
For the partner who watches their loved one’s body grow and change while trying to do and say all the right things, it can be a hard balance to strike.
Mamamia talks to four partners about how they handled pregnancy and birth from their important support-act perspective.
David, father to Charlie (6) and Emika (2).
David had just graduated from university when wife Jess surprised him with the ‘gift’ of a positive pregnancy stick.
“I was ecstatic! We had been trying to conceive so we were thrilled to discover we were going to be parents for the first time.
“I watched in awe as Jess’ body changed and I loved feeling the baby moving around in her tummy. I felt envious that she got to have that experience.”
The pregnancy was not the easiest for Jess who suffered from morning sickness and towards the end, the pregnancy rash PUPPPs (Pruritic Urticarial Papules and Plaques of Pregnancy).
“By that stage, I felt quite anxious and as it was our first time, I wasn’t sure what to expect with the birth.”
Charlie was born in 2012 and David’s feelings for his son were never in doubt.
“As soon as I saw him I fell in love! I have never loved a bloke more and thinking about it now still makes me very emotional.”
His reaction at the gender reveal party for their second pregnancy took him by surprise.
“When we cut the cake to reveal pink for a girl, I was absolutely stoked. I had this sense of completeness for our family.”
After going through the private hospital system with Charlie, Jess and David decided on a home birth for baby Emika.
“Jess was a warrior and while my anxiety levels were higher with her giving birth at home in a pool, it was a really beautiful and positive experience.”
Ben, father to (as yet unnamed) newborn girl.
When Ben first found out wife Helen was pregnant, he was terrified.
“I had almost given up on the thought of having kids as I am over 40. I worried whether I would be a good father and felt generally scared about all the change that I knew was coming!”
Helen’s pregnancy was tough and it often left Ben feeling helpless.
“She would vomit most days and her appetite disappeared so we were under a lot of stress.
“I also just felt really guilty and if I could have taken some of those symptoms away, I would have. I tried to help out practically and be supportive – cleaning up when she was sick.”
The couple attended a child birthing course over a weekend and while Helen did a breastfeeding class, Ben took a short course on fatherhood.
“It was mostly common-sense stuff, but it was good to be reminded how to be there for the new baby, while maintaining an honest and supportive relationship with your wife.”
The birth was lengthy and ended with an assisted delivery.
“I hated seeing Helen in pain, knowing there was nothing I could medically do to help.
“After hours of labour, Helen was exhausted and while the doctors and nurses kept reassuring me that baby was okay, I kept thinking, ‘that’s great, but what about Helen?’”
“As soon as I saw my baby girl though, my eyes welled up. She is beautiful and I am so excited for our future as a family.”
Miriam, mother to Oliver (2).
Miriam experienced every emotion possible when she discovered her partner Kristy was pregnant in 2016.
“I was happy and excited about the future but also terrified as reality set in that we would have a real-life baby to be responsible for!”
During the pregnancy, Miriam felt plenty of anxiety but also a little strange as the non-pregnant partner in a same-sex relationship.
“It was weird at times not having the role that a woman typically would, so I busied myself reading and making heaps of notes about birthing and breastfeeding to help Kristy when the time came. I really didn’t want to let her down, but I think I actually drove her a little crazy!”
“I was obsessed with making the nursery look good as I knew we would have no time after he was born.
“We also attended a very helpful ‘Calm Birth’ course. It was practical and science-based and it taught me a lot about what to expect. I felt much more capable.”
As the labour got underway, Miriam was in her element.
“I was calm and it felt good to be able to help Kristy with breathing and staying comfortable.
“When Oliver eventually arrived I just froze in shock! I enjoyed cutting the umbilical cord, it made me feel part of it all.
“One thing I didn’t expect was how it made me question whether or not I would ever want to be in Kristy’s position and give birth!”
Paul, father to Oli (2).
After wife Melinda became pregnant a lot faster than expected, Paul’s first emotion was one of shock.
“I had always wanted a family but assumed it would take a while, so we were surprised when Mel quickly fell pregnant.
“I was really happy and relaxed along the way; her pregnancy was uneventful.
“We both went along to a midwife-led birthing and parenting course, which was useful and I really loved that whole period.
“I remember Mel saying she just felt ‘really loved’ while she was pregnant, because she did!"
By the time the birth began, Paul’s relaxed demeanour was put the test.
“I work as a nurse on a surgical ward so I'm not afraid of the sight of blood, but I could see Mel’s discomfort and it made me realise how vulnerable women giving birth are.
“I tried to rest during early labour when the midwife sent me home, but I couldn’t sleep. I was so relieved and emotional when Oli was born that I fell asleep giving him a cuddle.”
How did your partner handle pregnancy and birth? We’d love to hear from you in the comments.
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Hunts Point merchants donate fresh produce ahead of Thanksgiving
by Eyewitness NewsHUNTS POINT, Bronx (WABC) -- Merchants from the Hunts Point Produce Market in the Bronx were giving back ahead of Thanksgiving.
They distributed more than 25,000 pounds of fresh produce Saturday - that's 2,000 bags of fruits and vegetables.
Individual bags were filled with produce including baking potatoes, acorn squash, butternut squash, carrots, ginger, chayote squash, cranberries, garlic, yams, rutabagas, Macintosh apples and oranges.
In addition, each bag contained helpful, easy recipes.
Volunteers handed out the food on Lafayette Avenue.
The Hunts Point Produce Market is the largest in the world. This was the fifth year the merchants hosted the giveaway.


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Special Considerations
一些需要特别考虑的事情
Every operating system has specific requirements that must be addressed before new software is installed.
每一个操作系统在安装新软件之前都必须解决一些依赖问题
We have identified known prerequisites for some of the more popular operating systems here.
我们已经列出了一些常见的操作系统的依赖问题
- Microsoft Windows
Before installation of the OSSEC HIDS software, no additional packages must be installed on a Microsoft Windows platform.
对于windows系列，在安装OSSEC HIDS软件之前我们并不需要一些其它的软件包需要安装
Please note that continued development and support are only available for:
注意我们仅仅对于以下这些保持持续的开发与支持:
- Microsoft Windows 2000 Workstation
- Microsoft Windows 2000 Server
- Microsoft Windows XP Home
- Microsoft Windows XP Professional
- Microsoft Windows 2003 Server
The OSSEC HIDS can only be installed as an Agent at this time because of the reliance on Unix sockets for the server portion.
由于作为服务器要求的Unix套接子的稳定性的要求，目前OSSEC HIDS 仅仅可以当作 客户端安装这种方式(在windows上面安装)
Local and Server type installations are currently being investigated.
本地与服务器的安装方式目前正在调研研究中
- Sun Solaris
Before beginning your OSSEC installation on a Sun Solaris platform, ensure that you have installed the SUNWxcu4 package.
在Sun solaris 平台上面安装OSSEC之前必须确保系统已经安装了SUNWxcu4 包
To check if the SUNWxcu4 package has previously been installed, execute the following from your Solaris command line:
可以在你的Solaris命令行中运行如下的命令来检测是否已经安装了SUNWxcu4 包
$ pkginfo | grep SUNWxcu4
If you do not have the SUNWxcu4 package installed, execute the following command to install it:
如果你没有安装SUNWxcu4 安装包。可以执行如下的命令安装
$ pkgadd SUNWxcu4
- Ubuntu Linux
If using an Ubuntu Linux version before release 7.04 you must ensure that the build-essential package is installed before you install the OSSEC HIDS software.
如果你使用的ubuntu版本是7.04 之前的化那么一定要在安装OSSEC HIDS之前确定系统有没有安装build-essential软件包
To check if the build-essential package has already been installed, execute the following from your Ubuntu command line:
检测是否安装了build-essential 软件包可以执行如下的命令
$ aptitude search build-essential
If the build-essential package is installed, you will see an i beside the package:
如果build-essential软件包已经安装了的话，可以看到如下的信息
i build-essential - informational list of build-essential pack
If you do not have the build-essential package installed, execute the following command to install it:
当然如果你没有安装 build-essential软件包的话，可以执行如下的命令安装
$ sudo apt-get install build-essential
If using Ubuntu Linux version 7.04 or later you must ensure that the gcc and glibc-dev packages are installed before you install the OSSEC HIDS software.
如果使用的ubuntu的系统是7.04或者之后的版本那么一定要确认系统是否已经安装了gcc 和 glibc-dev 软件包
These packages are required to properly build the OSSEC HIDS software for your system.
这些软件包对于安装OSSEC HIDS 软件都是必须需要的。
If you do not have the gcc and glibc-dev packages installed, execute the following command to install the packages:
如果你没有安装 gcc 和 glibc-dev 软件包，可以执行如下的命令安装：
$ sudo apt-get install gcc glibc-dev
- Mac OS X
Before you install the OSSEC HIDS software on a system running Mac OS X, you must ensure that the Xcode development package is installed to compile the OSSEC HIDS software.
在Mac OS系统上面安装 OSSEC HIDS 需要确保系统装了可以编译OSSEC HIDS的 Xcode 开发工具
This package can be found on your Mac OS X installation media or at the Apple Developer Connection site.
你可以在Mac OS X的安装中心或者连接到 苹果的开发网站查看
To install Xcode, you must:
- Download Xcode from the Apple Developer Connection tool site located at http://developer.apple.com/tools/.
- Run the installer to install the packages you need.
安装Xcode 按如下步骤:
- 在苹果的开发者工具集 http://developer.apple.com/tools/ 网站里下载 Xcode
- 运行安装执行文件
For the OSSEC HIDS software, at a minimum, you need the Developer Tools Software package, but feel free to install any of the other useful packages contained within the Xcode installer.
安装OSSEC HIDS 软件的最低需要 开发工具包，安装Xcode可以包含很多非常有用的软件


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This supports configuring individual CTI components.
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This supports configuring individual CTI components.
| int cs_cti_clear_active_channel |
( |
cs_device_t |
cti, |
|
|
unsigned int |
channel |
|
) |
| |
Clear an output channel on a CTI.
- Parameters
-
| cti | CTI to clear an active channel. |
| channel | Channel number (0..3) |
| int cs_cti_clear_all_active_channels |
( |
cs_device_t |
cti | ) |
|
All channels on a CTI are set to the inactive state.
- Parameters
-
| cti | CTI to clear all active channels. |
| int cs_cti_pulse_channel |
( |
cs_device_t |
cti, |
|
|
unsigned int |
channel |
|
) |
| |
Pulse a channel active on a CTI.
- Parameters
-
| cti | CTI to send the pulse from |
| channel | Channel number (0..3) |
Program a CTI to something approximating its reset state:
- the CTI is disabled
- no trigger inputs are connected to any channels
- no channels are connected to any trigger outputs
- channel interface propagation is enabled for all channels
| int cs_cti_set_active_channel |
( |
cs_device_t |
cti, |
|
|
unsigned int |
channel |
|
) |
| |
Set a channel active on a CTI.
Use the CTI APPSET register to set the correct bit corresponding to the channel number.
- Parameters
-
| cti | CTI to set an channel active. |
| channel | Channel number (0..3) |
| int cs_cti_set_global_channels |
( |
cs_device_t |
cti, |
|
|
unsigned int |
mask |
|
) |
| |
Control propagation of the selected channels to the cross-trigger matrix.
- Parameters
-
| cti | Target CTI device. |
| mask | Bitmask defining CTI channels to propogate to CTM - value written to CTIGATE register |
| int cs_cti_set_trigin_channels |
( |
cs_device_t |
cti, |
|
|
unsigned int |
ctiport, |
|
|
unsigned int |
mask |
|
) |
| |
Map CTI cross trigger channel(s) to a CTI trigger input port.
- Parameters
-
| cti | Target CTI device. |
| ctiport | TRIGIN port number - maps to a CTIINEN<n> register |
| mask | Bitmask defining CTI channels to map - value written to CTIINEN register |
| int cs_cti_set_trigout_channels |
( |
cs_device_t |
cti, |
|
|
unsigned int |
ctiport, |
|
|
unsigned int |
mask |
|
) |
| |
Map CTI cross trigger channel(s) to a CTI trigger output port.
- Parameters
-
| cti | Target CTI device. |
| ctiport | TRIGOUT port number - maps to a CTIOUTEN<n> register |
| mask | Bitmask defining CTI channels to map - value written to CTIOUTEN register |
Return a mask indicating which trigger inputs are active.
Reads the CTITRIGINSTATUS register.
- Parameters
-
Return a mask indicating which trigger outputs are active.
Reads the CTITRIGOUTSTATUS register.
- Parameters
-
Return a mask indicating which channels are in use i.e.
connected to one or more triggers


homepilot station
IP
if left empty 'homepilot.local' will be used
Port
normally no port setting is required
Synctime
s (default is 12)
Password
Device is Bridge